前,我就像正在阅读本文的一些读者一样,身体透支、工作劳累,心中郁闷至极。


I was a young psychology professor desperately seeking tenure, with two toddlers at home and a husband whose work kept him away for days at a time. I exercised once a week on a good week, rarely saw my friends or extended family, and couldn't remember the last time I'd read a book that wasn't about statistics. It was just too much. Something had to give. And it did. I left my job, not knowing exactly what I was going to do next. It was the toughest decision I've ever made, but it was also one of the best.


当时,我是一名渴求终身教职的年轻心理学教授,家里有两个在学步期的孩子,丈夫常常需要出差,而且一走就是好几天。运气好的时候我每周能锻炼一次,很少有机会跟朋友或其他家人碰面,甚至已经不记得上一次阅读跟统计无关的书籍是什么时候了。我已经不堪重负,必须要有所放弃。而我也确实这样做了。我辞掉了工作,茫然不知下一步要做什么。这是我做过的最艰难的一个决定,但也是最好的决定之一。


As a psychologist who studies motivation, I spend a lot of